Do not stop your search
before it actually started, read this mini-guide to
successfully find your Russian wife.
Introduction to start searching for a Russian wife
The following information is indispensable for men who are truly serious in finding, and finally marrying a Russian woman. We will describe the different phases
that you will encounter during the entire
process. Because every single man has his own personal preferences in
finding his Russian lady, we will describe three methods that you can use as a
general guideline. This information can help you to create your
success, and it also could prevent you from possible disappointments.
Why am I writing this mini guide and why am I trying to convince you
that this information can be the key for your success. I can
give you only one reason: 'Men often don't listen".
I don't want to insult you, but some time ago, after
reading and responding our daily visitors mail, I asked
my husband, 'how is it possible that most men really
don't know what to do to get in contact with Russian
women or to maintain an online correspondence
with a Russian lady'. 'Why can't they even write a
proper introduction letter, while almost every website, related
to Russian women, are in general giving the same advice (or offer
you a service to do it for you) to all these men, but still some
men think they know it better'.
My husband was staring at me for a while, then he only could say: 'I
guess it is because we never
listen, because we always know better, because we always want to
do the things by our self, because we sometimes do not want to
admit that other persons sometimes know specific things better then we do (especially when 'these persons' are
women), because we sometimes are a little pigheaded and
most of the time we are impatience too and we also are a little
bit shy sometimes, but we never will admit that!
Well, this was very honest of him isn't it? (in fact it
was me who helped him a bit :-).
But to be serious, this must sound
you, or did I touched your pride and left us right away? I don't
think you did, although this sounds a little bit cynical, you know
it's true, that's why you still are here. If you want to find
your Russian wife too, then let people help you, let us
help you, by keep on reading and don't think it is a
piece of cake, because I can assure you, it is not!
If you see those thousands online photo's of beautiful
single Russian girls and women, then it could give you
the impression that you just have to throw a coin,
choose one of them, write an email that your are
interested and marry the girl in a couple of month's.
But it doesn't work that way!
Many men think that Russian women will grab the first man who
writes them, like they are really desperate. I am sorry to
tell you, but Russian women who are looking for a new (foreign) partner
are certainly not desperate. On the contrary, they really know
exactly what they do and what they want and they have a lot of
patience to achieve their ambition to marry a western man. These
women really know what it means if they really get involved in a
serious relationship with a foreign man, but the question is, do you know what to do or what the consequences are?
My website has a lot of information pages with different kind of advice related to
finding Russian women, but did you know that,
already for month's, our 'Dating Scams'
page is the most visited one, and our
and Information pages are the less visited ones and both you
can easily access from any page of our site. This gives me the impression
that most people want to read articles about things what already
has happened but no articles to prevent them from possible undesired
Of course, any information about dating scams can be of great
value for you, but at this moment I have the feeling that some
people are getting paranoid about this infamous phenomenon and
focus too much about the bad experiences others have
encountered. If you do the right things from the
beginning, then nothing unpleasant will happen to you.
Information, advice and consultation related to dating scams is
only 'part' of the total information package you need to gather
before you start looking for a Russian woman. Listening,
believing and adopting the
value of good information and advice about Russian women in general
must have a high priority for you. Online authors are not
writing articles about this subject just for fun. Some
people wrote complete books about 'How to..." or about
their life-story and many other people wrote and are
still writing free-to-read (like our website) articles
about the whole process. All these men and women do this
based on their own experience, so these 'stories' are
not fictive and they only do this to help you and all single Russian women. You will notice, that if you read other articles too,
that we all have the same similarity, only the persons involved
general actual facts.
At this moment, dating websites are still growing like grass on a
warm rainy spring day.
Just type the most used (key) words 'Russian women"
in for example www.google.com
and you will see a result of millions matching these two
of them are related to the Russian women dating business. If
this is your way to start finding your Russian woman, then you
really should read my pages.
Simultaneous with the fast growth of these dating websites, the 'dark' side of this business is
unfortunately growing too, which is the
infamous "Dating Scam Ghost" who is watching you at
every dark RW-dating corner, waiting to get you at the right
moment. Also these two words (dating scam) will give
you a large result of links in any search engine. I admit, it's really frightened how
fast this unwanted phenomenon is growing too. But it is
certainly no reason to give up your search for your Russian
bride, just prepare yourself in a proper way and no unpleasant things
will happen to you.
The number of Russian (and of course all other CIS countries
too) women, who are looking for a new (foreign) life partner, is
extremely growing, together with the number of single men who try
their luck on the web. Because online dating is very popular.
Although all related (above) subjects are growing (in number),
the numbers of successful new couples are NOT growing in the same
way. In fact it looks like the number of successful
international relationships is even decreasing. Most men
stop already after some hours or days surfing on the web,
because they think, that this is too difficult to make it to a
Other reasons are that for most men it's difficult to
choose, because there are so many women profiles on the web,
there is just too much choice. Another reason is that most men doesn't
know how to start, or doesn't know the importance of their first
(introduction) letter to the Russian woman or finally, are afraid to be
We will give you three method's, that can be a guide for
you, how to find and marry your Russian woman.
You will understand that it's impossible for us to write down
every possible method to find your specific Russian woman. But
reading these three methods can give you enough information to
create your own personal way to find, meet and marry your
I know it's a lot, but please continue reading:
The very first thing you should ask yourself is, are you really
convinced that you want to marry a Russian woman? I explain
several times in other pages of this website that finding a
Russian woman is a complete different process then finding or meeting a
woman in the 'usual' way. Due to the practical
complexity you will undertake, it will not give you the same flexibility
as you will have during the usual way in building a new
relationship. The women you will meet 'online' are already
prepared for marriage and prepared to move to another country. The
question is, are you?
You should realize that the moment your Russian lady is coming
to your country, she will be at least your fiancée or even
already your spouse.
Don't think you can invite your Russian girlfriend into the US
before you have meet her in person, preferable in her own
This means you have to travel to her for at least a
week, preferable 2 weeks to give each other a chance to know
each other. During these two weeks you both have to make an
important decision, you continue your relationship and start
make preparations for a K1-fiancee visa (US) or immigration visa
for other countries, or you both decide to stop the relation
because there wasn't a match. Therefore it is important to learn
from each other as much as possible during the correspondence
period, using letters, email and phone conversations. Beside that, from the moment you
start your first contact, you both have to keep copies of any evidence,
like emails, photo's, tickets, bills, etc. of your relationship
with each other.
You need this for the (K1) visa procedure.
Before you start your search, you also have to be certain that
you can qualify for applying a K1-fiancee visa. You must pass
the questionnaire of the new
UMBRA law (only for US men), you must have a regular job
with a regular income and you need to have a house, or apartment
were both can live.
But if all these things are not a problem (which is for almost
any men), then I can tell you, it's all worth it!
The second thing you should do, before starting your 'hunting', is to read about Russian women,
the Russian culture and Russia in general. It's very important
to have at least some knowledge of the Russian culture- and moral
differences between our culture. It's also useful to take a look at the
Russian geography. It would be nice, if
one of the women you are
corresponding with lives for example in the city Perm, that you
at least know
where Perm is (geographical) situated.
I suggest you visit any topic of my
Information and advice
pages, including my
Tips & Articles and your first attempt to find
your Russian bride could be already your last. Avoid any
complicated issues by reading this book!
My dear visitor, if you still are convinced you want to go
through the entire process, just for the reason you truly
to find and marry a Russian woman, then read the 7 steps I wrote for you.
After reading this mini guide, I am sure you will have much more
information and hopefully some ideas of your own, how to (re)start
your search for your Russian wife.
7 steps from preparing your profile till the immigration process
Topics described in this chapter:
This guide will explain in general all the possible phases you will encounter
during your process from 'finding a Russian woman' till 'marry a
Russian woman' and everything that is in between.
First describe a profile of the type of woman
you are looking for, create a checklist with for you important
Before you start browsing through the women's personals, you first
should have (written down) a very complete profile about the
type of woman you are looking for, including the age range you
are looking for. Be realistic and don't look for a 20 year younger
woman, even when her ad shows an age range of more than 20
years, it could be not her personal wish. Some agencies that publish women's personals, just do this for her (to improve her
chances) and she probably
doesn't even know about it.
Some time ago I interviewed about 10 Russian women about this
age-range subject and all women responded that their wish is a
man of their own age or with a reasonable age difference. But
not more than 10 or maximum 15 years, depending what her or your
age is. Unless you are looking for a daughter instead of a
From this (written) profile, you extract the most important
highlights that you should always use during the moments you are
browsing through Russian women's ads.
The best thing is to create short checklist with items that are
important for you, to see such a checklist
go to my example questionnaire.
Never only judge a nice
photo. Don't make the same mistake as many others did before you, by only picking out the
knock-outs you can
find. If you see photos of women in sexy clothes, then it will
be only for the reason that the agency where she is published,
asked her to do that. They tell her she will have more change to
be chosen first, then publishing a photo in just jeans and a
T-shirt (as a matter of speaking). For one thing you can be
sure, it says nothing about her character. So if you see a nice
woman in a sexy, very short, skirt or dress, then keep in mind
that this dress is probably not even from herself, but only
borrowed and used to make a photo to impress you (and I bet she
did impress you!).
Russian women counts, it's much more important what is in the
'inside' than how the physical looks are, for men it's often the
other way. And don't be afraid,
every Russian woman is beautiful, and you will be that too for
only if you show it to her.
Do not narrow your search by only looking for
Russian women who live in big cities. Just for the reason that
you think it is practical easier to meet her there then meeting
her in a local town.
If traveling to and from her is an important issue for you,
then don't make a big deal of this. Flying to Moscow, Kiev or
St. Petersburg is easy to do for you. But if she lives for
example in Samara (see also our
then you need a train or local flight for another extra day traveling. Don't bother about
this minor thing, for her it's easy and rather cheap to travel
through Russia, so you can suggest, if you visit her, if she
wants to go
by train or bus to Moscow or any other (easy to reach) city of your choice, and
meet you there.
Every main city (but also local cities) in Russia are at
least connected with railways, and most of the time with local airports too, and
traveling by train is not very expensive, even for
Russians. My advice is, do not narrow your search by only
selecting women who live in Moscow or St. Petersburg, you never
know, her parents could live in Vladivostok and you really will
have to visit her family now and then. Beside that, women from Moscow or
St. Petersburg are quite different (more effected by western
life standards) from women from a local city or village. Visit
Moscow and some other local city and you will agree that these
two cities are two complete different worlds. So, your primary ambition
should be to find a Russian woman who fits best with you
(and vice versa). For that fact it must not be a major thing for
you to bother where she is currently living.
Now first create your own profile online (for
Be honest about yourself when creating your profile. Write
down as much as possible about yourself, the more you tell about
yourself, the more interested women can be in you. The female
members also have access to the male members, so it is possible
that women contact you first, because of your profile. Also use
some good photo's of yourself, at least two, one close-up and
one where your whole body is visible. Do not use swimming shorts
or half naked body photo's, just some nice casual clothes, do
not exaggerate, just be yourself.
Click here to create your profile A new window will be
opened, so you will not leave this page.
Start browsing (free) through the database of available women,
using a comprehensive search-form.
Being at this step I assume you have finished your woman's
profile and you have created (for free) your own profile. You know exactly what kind of women you are looking for.
You also studied the Russian map and wrote down some preferable
countries (Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Latvia, Kazakhstan etc.) and cities
that will be suitable for you. Then it's time to talk about
'where' to search for your woman.
You also can start using our
comprehensive search form with many selection criteria to
browse through the free access database of female women.
Do not look only to photo's, but read also her biography,
remember that you are looking for a perfect match, not for a
When you are browsing, you
can add your favorites to your profile and view your favorites
using the 'favorites' link. Take your time to do this and keep
on verifying the biography of these ladies with your checklist.
You don't need to everything at once, the system will keep your
list of favorites a month.
The next step you can do
is a choice of two things:
Send an expression of
A message will send to the selected lady, then she can view your
profile and decide to answer your message of interest. This is
an easy way to find out if a person could be interested in you
(based on your profile) before start writing long letters.
or just buy the selected
address information and start sending your first introduction
Before you can order
addresses or send an expression of interest, you should upgrade
You can choose for a Gold Membership,
Platinum Membership, or just sell single addresses.
Your first introduction letter:
We recommend to
translate your first letter because Russian ladies struggle with reading English
letters even if they know the language fairly well. It will
ensure she will read your letter, and understand everything you
were intending to tell her.
Now we have come to the most important part of your first
Your first (introduction) letter has the aim to give
the women, you are writing, a reason to write you back in such a
way she is really interested in you. This means you have to
impress her with your profile and simple (but effective)
biography. This is not easy!
experience I know that many men, who have selected a lot of
women's profiles, write a very simple standard letter like this;
"Hi I am John, and I live in America. I like your photo
and profile. I have a house, a car, a cat and a nice job, I like
to know you better, if you are interested, please write me back".
Then they copy this incredible impressive letter 20 times and send it
away and expect that the next day their email-inbox will be loaded
with longing woman.
After some days or weeks, these men take contact with the agency
where they bought these addresses and start to complain that
none of the women he wrote, is writing him back. Are you
surprised? I am not, and probably the agency will tell you the
Do you really expect that these women will respond letters
like that? If you have read the all our information on our website then you should know
So, what's the secret? Well, there is not really a secret, but
you must know that a Russian woman only will select a man for
his personality and human character. She wants to see if there
is a possible 'match' between you and her. Russian women in
general, don't select men from only picture (in contrast what
most men do!).
This means you will have to write a very good description
about the person you are, you social life, your work, your
hobbies, the way you spend your free times and something about
your character. Only use simple basic English, because it's
important she must be able to understand what you are writing. The
woman who receives your letter has to create a first impression
of you and she will try to determine if you 'could' be the man
to stay the rest of her life with. I know this is not easy to
do, especially when you are not a good 'writer'. Don't bother,
Russian women are not looking for 'novel writers' but a new life
partner. But I guess you know what I mean.
Our suggestion is to use a translation service
that will translate your introduction letter and re-write it in
'Russian'. You can choose for adequate translation (for formal
matters) or creative translation which are used for non-formal
And by doing this you
also show her that you serious want to put effort to impress
here, and she will respect you for doing that.
Why do you need to translate your first letter to a woman?
in Russian is easier to read.
will show you care and serious interest..
won't have to pay for translating it by herself (women have to do it to ensure the
correct translation even if they know the language to some extent).
can express yourself without worrying if the woman will be able to
shows that only 5% of men are translating their letters - you will be
able to make your letter stand out!
send it in response to her profile, or as an answer to her response on your
ad, and the most important reason why you write it - it's to introduce
yourself and let her know you better.
Women you contacted (by your message of
interest or your introduction letter) start sending you
responses, what to do next?
From this moment you start to feel excited. Your first letter
had success and women start to write you back and tell you that
they are interested in you.
From now on, it's difficult for me to use one example. It is 'you'
who has to select the most favorite women who are writing you
back. They already showed you their first interest in you and depending
on what they are writing you, you have to make a selection
from those who are still interesting for you. This can be from only
one woman to five or less, depending on your choice. At least
the next step is again yours.
After selecting your favorite(s),
you have to write another letter in which you (for example)
answers their questions to you. (Important: read
carefully if she is also answering your specific questions). But first you start of course
with a 'Thank you for your respond to my letter etc....(or something
like that), then you will first answer her questions to her (don't
skip any question from her!), after that you can ask more about
her, ask anything
you like, but keep your decency and respect to her. Ask question
which are important for you to know, don't start talking about
how the weather is there, or other superficial questions, just
try to know each other better, because from all the answers you
get or all the answers you write her, you both will come to a
certain point that you are thinking of meeting each other.
A very important next step in your second letter to her is to
convince her, why you are the right man for her and why she can
be the right woman for for you. You must try to
explain her that she made the right decision to write back to
you. Of course you must use a less 'arrogant' way as I am
expressing now, but I am sure you know what I mean.
From now on the correspondence is in your hands and you decide
how long and with how many women you continue your correspondence,
before you (or both) decide to meet each other. It's up to you
if you want to meet just one woman, or more than one women, just
because of the fact you still don't know which one will be the
best future partner for you.
Ok, let's say you are corresponding a while with one or more
women. And you have heard or read about the possibility of
dating scams. I suppose this will at least cross your mind and
you will ask yourself, is this lady real?
While corresponding with her I can give you some quick tips:
Ask her postal address and her phone number (or a phone number
from a relative, parents, brother, sister, etc. if she doesn't
own one by herself). I know many men who are calling their girlfriends
at their parents, friends or relatives (I did the same). Using a
phone to communicate with each other can sometimes make things
much more comfortable and easier too.
Another important tip is, no matter how much you already 'trust'
this woman, never send her any money if she asking for it, but
also if she is not asking for it. In this stadium of your
relationship, money should not be an issue for both of you. The
only one who probably will spend money, during this stadium of
the process (for sending flowers or a small gift) is only you.
In fact, just don't talk about money at all.
you want to read more about this infamous aspect of
international relationship, please visit our information topic:
Planning your first meeting
First of all, for American men, don't think you can invite your
girlfriend to visit you in the US as a visitor or tourist, she
will never get a visa for this. Only under special conditions
there could be a very small change to get this. Our advice is,
don't even try, it is a waist of time (and probably money too).
Also do not trust any local (Russian) travel agencies who try to
convince you that they can arrange a visa for her, because they
use illegal methods or they are scam.
it's evident that you will meet your girlfriend (or a few women)
in her country. If you are visiting just one woman, then I
suggest you visit our topic "First
Meeting" before you continue with this topic.
If you will meet your girlfriend Russia then it is important you
have made all the necessary arrangements. like visa, hotel or apartment,
car (with a driver), interpreter.
How to meet your girlfriend (or more than one):
You can apply for
two kind of visa, one is the so called private
(home stay) visa, that means that after you send the necessary
documents to your girlfriend, she has to apply for an
invitation. The first time she will do this, will take about 2
month's before this invitation is ready to be send to you. For
your first meeting this is not a real efficient option, so we
advice you to obtain the usual tourist-visa.
But before you can apply for a tourist visa at the Russian
Embassy or Consulate in your area, you need to have a hotel
voucher, and an official invitation from the hotel or Russian
tourist company. If you book a hotel in Russia, only choose a
hotel with visa-services, this means that they can provide you
an official invitation and send it to you by fax.
In case you will meet more than one woman:
First it's important to setup a time schedule. This time
schedule should give you the opportunity to meet these 3 women (separately!)
during your stay in Russia. To do this correct your need to make
notes of the following rules:
to meet these women in a big city that is easy for the women
to meet you, for example Moscow.
your travel time to/from Moscow (including the time
difference!) in your time schedule.
for example at least three days with each woman and finally
at least one (or better two) weeks with the one you finally
you book a hotel, you should book two rooms, if you decide
to rent an apartment, be sure this apartment also has two
invite the three women at the same time, they also need a
place to stay and booking four rooms at the same time would
be a waist of money (and time for the 'waiting' women).
would be very polite to suggest to pay the travel from their
home place to Moscow (and back) for each woman, but don't send
money to them, just explain them you will pay the travel
arrival. There are many ways to check how much a train
ticket will cost from any city in Russia to Moscow, in this
case you will know that they will not try to fraud you (if
you have reason to believe there is a possibility for this).
spend a romantic week or two weeks with the one you finally
has chosen to be your new life partner.
this example you have to travel for at least 20 to 27 days (2
times 2 days travel to/from US/Russia, time difference for
example New York and Moscow is 8 hours), then 9 days to meet
each woman and finally 1 week (or 2) for your chosen lady.
Of course this is only a static example of how to arrange your
time schedule. But it gives you an impression.
If you decide to meet just one woman, then this time schedule will be
much easier of course.
you go to the next step, please visit our page 'First
Meeting" too for additional information.
After your first meeting, what is next?
If your meeting didn't work out at all then you have to start
again from step 4. Don't feel too down-hearted if this first
meeting experience didn't work out, it really happens many times
and still these men continue their 'search' for their future
wife. At least you are more experienced now and will certainly
have learned from this first experience.
You can do two things:
The visa process is a pretty complex process (if you decide to do it all by yourself) and
you only can do it one time right.
Note: If you
marry your fiancée in her country (K3), the process to let her
enter the US
is called "adjustment of status". This takes much
longer then the fiancée visa.
main requirements for a fiancée visa are :
must be a US citizen. Permanent residents of the US are not
allowed to obtain fiancée visas.
you and your fiancée must be free to marry. This means that
if either has been married previously, you are either
divorced, widowed or the marriage was annulled.
must have met your fiancée in person within the previous
must also be free of AIDS.
must be able to support your fiancée in the USA.
your fiancée receives her K1-visa, you both have ninety (90)
days to marry each other. If this time is not enough for
both of you, then she has to go back to Russia and you both have
to start all over again.
will agree, that there is a lot of information about K1-Fiancée
visa and immigration to the US. In fact sometimes too many
information to understand very clear what you really have to do,
if you want to do this all by yourself. However there are enough
examples of US men who succeeded in this. But you also can risk a
lot, if you do things wrong, then it is sometimes difficult or
even impossible to recover any mistakes in this complex Government
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This is the end of the example of "how to find and marry a Russian