Before
you start to contact a Russian women, prepare yourself by defining a
'what is important for me' list and use this list as
your criteria for seeking a
new (Russian) compatible partner.
The
(example) criteria below are different with those questionnaires you can find
at almost any Dating Agency on the web. Those questionnaires have more questions
like 'smoking yes/no, or
'want to have kids
yes/no' etc.). But the criteria below, can have some importance for your mutual future relationship, especially when you
both already are in an advanced progress of your relationship.
Give
your list a priority value from 1 to 5 (where 1 is 'very important' and 5 is 'I
don't mind') print this
page and keep it with you. Don't forget, this list is only for you,
not to send to your partner.
Your future partner also needs to know what's important for
you, probably she will also use a list like this.
This list is just an example, use your 'own'
questions and use your personal experience from your former relationship(s).
Don't make the same mistake(s) again. So write down what is really
important for you and talk about these things when communication with a
Russian lady.
Perhaps
some questions, of the above list, are a little bit exaggerating or even impersonal
for you, but this is only for the reason that your (future) partner will know what your wishes
are and that you will know what her wishes are. Unfortunately I know some
examples of people in similar relationship conditions (long distance), who
already broke up their relationship within one year, after the woman left
everything behind. The main reason for this was that these people didn't know
each other's expectations before they decided to live together. In
other words, their mutual preparation just wasn't sufficient to let their
relationship succeed. One
of the main differences between a 'local' and a 'long distance' relationship is
that you just don't have the practical possibilities to 'try' first, to first
learn about each other better in your own save neighborhood in a 'normal' way, before making the
'big' step.
Beside that, living in a strange country, will not automatically
guaranty a one hundred percent success. You both really have to work hard to
make it successful and one of these critical success factors is; ask yourself
what you really expect (from her) and ask yourself what you think your future partner really expects
(from you) and
try to get this confirmed with each other. If she is smart (and they
are!), she will ask
the same from you, if not, you should encourage her to do the same. Only
communicating at this level, can give both of you a fair change at success.