Russian Women Dating Info BLOG

I recently found a very interesting post on a Russian Women blog, written by Galacticlove, an American man who lives and works in Russia.

Russian women who join agencies generally do not share this fact with other people such as friends and family. This is because the given attitude that most Russians have towards marriage agencies is negative and this often causes shame and problems for those that have joined. Unfortunately what this belief does is prevent the vast majority of qualified single women from joining any agency no matter how good it’s reputation.

There are other factors that compound this problem. Russian media and news has only conducted negative stories on marriage agencies. They have sensationalized various horror stories of some poor Russian women marrying some monster of an American man who has serious problems. Even though this does not represent the vast majority of happy unions between Russian women and American men it still gets used like a tabloid story to hook in more listeners and viewers and it works.

Another problem is the negative reputation of the agencies themselves. Russian people rarely hear about the good agencies but they often hear about the bad ones. Much of this criticism is deserved since there are a number of truly un-ethical marriage agencies which systematically scam both American men and Russian women.

American men who come over with a wrong attitude also end up hurting the reputation of agencies with Russian women as well. There are a number of desperate American men who have been fueled on a completely bogus belief that Russian women are “mail order brides”. With this in mind they come to Russia often acting like arrogant slave masters trying to “get the best deal”. These men either end up going home frustrated (because the good women here easily see through this) or they end up matching with a woman with questionable character and motives.

As you can imagine this hurts the reputation of the agency for bringing the man out in the first place and it also damages the general reputation of American men. I personally know of cases where outstanding Russian women with high hopes for a relationship were completely degraded by some American man and now they refuse to have anything to do with any marriage agencies.

Finally many good Russian ladies do not join agencies because they fear that it will make them appear desperate or look like they are prostituting themselves. In Russia there are a growing number of prostitution websites which look very similar to agency websites. An average Russian woman is proud, refined and conservative and she is very sensitive as to how other people see her. Accordingly she doesn’t want to appear like a commodity for sale.

You will want to keep in mind that this is just a perception and in no way means that the women who have already joined agencies are anything less then the stellar women that are described on RWA. Given these stereotypes it takes courage and a good streak of independence for both Russian women and American men to work with an agency.

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