Russian Women Dating BLOG

By Marina Smiley

Every week, I receive, approximately 6 to 10 letters from western men, who begin their stories like this:

“Recently, I met a Russian woman and I feel like  we have a lot in common. she is 23 years old and I am 50 but I look much younger ……. “

Or like this:

“I just came from Russia , where I met my beautiful Elena. I  corresponded with her via the internet for 4 months before I went to see her.  Everything was great during my visit with her and now I am in the process of  obtaining a  K1 visa for her. She is 21 years old and I am 49 , but  friends  tell me  that I look 35.”

Also, I  receive letters like this:

“Dear, Marina:
Please, help me!

I desperately need your advice.  About 6 months ago I married a 24 year old Russian woman and just recently discovered that she is cheating on me with a guy who is 25. I am so devastated that I am planning to file for divorce. My question is ……………….? By the way, I am 51 years old but look very young. She never complained or made an issue of our age difference and I never thought our age difference posed a problem.”

Ok, enough examples, I think that you get the point!

There are many men, 45 and older, from western countries who want to find and marry  Russian women who are very young, just out of their teens and in their early twenties and some of these relationships have been successful.

All these couples have one thing in common: The men always look much younger than their age and they always describe their young Russian woman as surprisingly “much more  mature” compared to the young women of their country.

Well, well…….
I have to admit that western men DO look much younger than Russian men of the same age. But I have a very hard time believing in a existence of  “very mature” young Russian girls. While living in Russia most of my life, I never met one of these ”mature” young  Russian girls, but who knows, maybe I was not  lucky enough ? All the young Russian women, who I encountered were not much different from the young women that I met in the U.S.A.
Young women, no matter what country they are from, live in their own world. A world that is messy, exciting and unstable. This is the world, where today’s heart break can turn into the tomorrow’s new romance almost without any difficulties. Do you remember yourself or your friends at that young age?
Of course this true as long as there are no children involved  in the relationship.

Elena, DoctorWhen  we are in love, we live in a very special world. That is why the old saying,  “Love is blind” is such an accurate statement. Once we are the road to developing a “family life” our vision usually returns rather quickly.
How  quickly ?  It depends …
But in the case of the couple above, it took only 6 months.

The second categories of letters that I constantly receive are about money matters.

One Italian gentleman sent me a letter in which he wrote that he is a “very young looking” 60 year old, ( of course.. what else? )
It  happened that he met and fell in love with a 21 year old Russian girl. The romance was at it’s peak  when she asked him to buy her an apartment in Russia for $60 000!!!

Actually,  this guy was financially, very well set, so he wrote in his letter that he could make this gift to his Russian beauty EASILY, but…..….he wasn’t sure that he should……. He thought that she asked too much and  asked my opinion about this situation, because he was afraid to lose her.

Ok, lets take a look at this Russian beauty.
Some would call her a scammer….. Not me!
I would call her  heartless, and a selfish girl with $$$$ signs in her eyes. The kind of young woman that you meet, often, nowadays in many different countries. I remember how, about 2 years ago, one young  girl from the US , sold her virginity on eBay and that a guy from Canada bought it for about $30 000.

With that situation firmly planted in your mind, let’s talk about her Russian “counter-part”
Was this young Russian girl a “scammer?”   I don’t think so. She didn’t lie to her Italian sweetheart and she didn’t try to trap him into anything. She just told him honestly and straight forwardly what she wanted .

I guess that she  just  figured out that a 40 years age difference  could be counted in a money equivalency, the same as American girl figured out how much her virginity was worth.
In  the  case of the  Russian girl, $1500 for each  year of an age difference….…look like a bargain! : )

But seriously, this guy is very lucky. At least, she was honest enough to show him her financial appetite before there was a marriage. He finally began to understand how it is feels to have a relationship with a woman 40 years his junior!.

So, what was my advice to this guy?
Be realistic:
Quit looking for a ““child/wife”, ” and begin looking for a woman .

Marina Smiley is the author of some of the most popular eBooks about Russian-Western marriages. 
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Especially when communicating long distance with your Russian woman, it’s very important to discover if there is a possible compatibility between the two of you. Below I have some simple but important tips for you to keep in mind:

• Most online or long distance dating problems occur because either the two of you are not compatible or you are not communicating enough. Other problems may be because the two of you just are not right for each other.
• Communication is the most important thing when you are dating. Most problems occur because the two of you are having difficulty expressing your feelings or you aren’t being clear about what you want.
• When you both communicate with each other properly it is clear to both of you if you are compatible and have the same likes and dislikes.
• You cannot force a relationship if the two of you are too different or you have different goals for the relationship.
• It is important to communicate about what you need and want from your relationship so you both are satisfied and you are not having disagreements about things.
• Another thing that can cause problems with online dating is if the two of you are not compatible. Communicating properly will tell you if you are or not.
• Compatibility can be difficult if one person in the relationship is needier than the other person. If one of the people wants their space and the other is very needy then it can make it difficult for dating.
• Online dating problems occur when communication skills are not up to par. You have to be comfortable with the person you are with so you can talk to them.
• Being comfortable and being able to communicate will show you how compatible the two of you are. If you don’t have these two things then you might just consider a good friendship.

Irina

By Elena Solomon, Soulmades.com.au

These days you seldom meet a single person who never tried online dating – unless they aren’t Internet users.

Since you are reading this, I assume you ARE online – so this information can be crucial for your online dating success.

Most people placing personal ads on Internet dating sites seem to do everything to RUIN any of their chances for success. Are you one of them?

Here is how to ruin your online dating campaign:

1. Choose a sleazy user name

Dating sites usually display your user name in your personal profile. So, if you choose something like “hurdcoreXXX” or “badgirl_69″, you are sure to mess up your chances dramatically.

2. Write a timid message

Every day I see people writing in their messages things like, “I hate this part but here it goes”, “I never know what to write here” or simply “Ask me”. Your personal message is the only thing in your profile that is UN-structured – the rest are usually just tick boxes. Make sure you don’t say anything interesting here, so no one will feel compelled to learn more about you.

3. Don’t have any partner requirements

Your requirements for a partner say VOLUMES about YOU. If you do not have any requirements for a partner, you will sound absolutely desperate. No one is attracted to desperate people.

4. Don’t upload a photo

Most users of dating sites search for profiles with photos. If you do not upload your photo, no one will find your ad. It will also severely damage the chances of your “Hi’s”, “Virtual Kisses” or “Smiles” being answered.

5. Don’t pay for premium membership

Usually online dating sites will allow you to place your personal ad for free, but to write to other singles, you have to buy a subscription. Although the price of subscription is cheaper than the price of a movie ticket and popcorn, you should not be tempted. By sticking with the free membership, you ensure you cannot contact anyone. Also some sites place ads of premium members on top of the search results. If you do not pay, your ad will appear on the page 247 of the search results – which will make it nearly impossible to find.

6. Don’t contact other members

Most online dating services will allow you to contact other members for free by sending a “Hi”, “Virtual Kiss”, “Icebreaker” or “Smile” – an expression of interest, to which the other member can respond. Don’t send any of those to anyone, or they may just answer positively. Think only about how bad would you feel if they rejected your advances.

7. Don’t change anything in your ad

Don’t attempt to change anything in your ad. If you change something, it may just start working. Keep with what doesn’t produce any results.

8. Don’t login to the website – ever

Once you placed your personal ad, immediately forget about it – and forget your user name and password, too. Don’t login to the website again. If you do, your ad may jump to the top of the search results and someone may write to you. Don’t take this risk. Just place the ad and forget about it.

If you follow this simple guidance, I can GUARANTEE that you will flawlessly ruin any chances for success with online dating sites and your love life will stay just the way it is!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Elena Solomon has been involved in online dating since the early days of WWW. She is the exclusive dating consultant of Soulmades.com.au – Internet personals for singles seeking love, romance, relationships and fun.

Elena is the author of “12 Simple Rules for Success in Love, Life and Online Dating“.

Every western country has specific rules when you want to bring your non-western fiancée to your country.  Therefore we always advise to check the Government immigration site of your own country for these details. Especially for the reason that they often change.

But many of these rules are corresponding with each other. Therefore we have created a list with most asked questions which apply for almost every western country.

Can we apply for a fiancée visa if one or both of us is divorced?

Absolutely. Be prepared to submit certified copies of all divorce decrees pertaining to the prior marriages of either fiancé.

How long will it take to get my fiancée here?

The time it takes to obtain a fiancée visa, from application through entry, is likely to be several months (4 to 6). The time varies depending on the petitioner’s state of residence and what country the beneficiary is from. Also, criminal background checks, waivers, and errors/omissions during the application process may extend the processing time. Continue Reading »

Your first meeting with your Russian woman is probably the most exciting moment of your relationship.

After a period of correspondence and you both confirm that there is a serious compatibility between each other, it’s time to suggest to meet each other.
But your first meeting needs proper preparation. Its’ not like meeting each other at a Starbucks shop. The only place I suggest to meet her is in her country. The reason is that you can get familiar with her roots and that she will feel more comfortable. But travelling for her (if she is from Russia and you from America, or UK) is almost impossible, due to visa difficulties.

Travelling to Russia or Ukraine is not a big deal for someone who lives in the Western part of the world. You need a passport, a visa, a hotel with visa support and an airline ticket, that’s it. And if you need some useful travel information for travelling within Russia, have a look here.

For information about visa, we have written a special topic about it: visit our Visa information topic.
If you look good then hotels in Moscow are not too expensive. Rates from about $70,- are not difficult to find. Visit this hotel resource which includes visa support (and airline tickets too). Continue Reading »