Jan 12 2010

How To Ruin Your Online Dating Success

Published by Irina under Articles, Tips

By Elena Solomon, Soulmades.com.au

These days you seldom meet a single person who never tried online dating – unless they aren’t Internet users.

Since you are reading this, I assume you ARE online – so this information can be crucial for your online dating success.

Most people placing personal ads on Internet dating sites seem to do everything to RUIN any of their chances for success. Are you one of them?

Here is how to ruin your online dating campaign:


1. Choose a sleazy user name

Dating sites usually display your user name in your personal profile. So, if you choose something like “hurdcoreXXX” or “badgirl_69″, you are sure to mess up your chances dramatically.

2. Write a timid message

Every day I see people writing in their messages things like, “I hate this part but here it goes”, “I never know what to write here” or simply “Ask me”. Your personal message is the only thing in your profile that is UN-structured – the rest are usually just tick boxes. Make sure you don’t say anything interesting here, so no one will feel compelled to learn more about you.

3. Don’t have any partner requirements

Your requirements for a partner say VOLUMES about YOU. If you do not have any requirements for a partner, you will sound absolutely desperate. No one is attracted to desperate people.

4. Don’t upload a photo

Most users of dating sites search for profiles with photos. If you do not upload your photo, no one will find your ad. It will also severely damage the chances of your “Hi’s”, “Virtual Kisses” or “Smiles” being answered.

5. Don’t pay for premium membership

Usually online dating sites will allow you to place your personal ad for free, but to write to other singles, you have to buy a subscription. Although the price of subscription is cheaper than the price of a movie ticket and popcorn, you should not be tempted. By sticking with the free membership, you ensure you cannot contact anyone. Also some sites place ads of premium members on top of the search results. If you do not pay, your ad will appear on the page 247 of the search results – which will make it nearly impossible to find.

6. Don’t contact other members

Most online dating services will allow you to contact other members for free by sending a “Hi”, “Virtual Kiss”, “Icebreaker” or “Smile” – an expression of interest, to which the other member can respond. Don’t send any of those to anyone, or they may just answer positively. Think only about how bad would you feel if they rejected your advances.

7. Don’t change anything in your ad

Don’t attempt to change anything in your ad. If you change something, it may just start working. Keep with what doesn’t produce any results.

8. Don’t login to the website – ever

Once you placed your personal ad, immediately forget about it – and forget your user name and password, too. Don’t login to the website again. If you do, your ad may jump to the top of the search results and someone may write to you. Don’t take this risk. Just place the ad and forget about it.

If you follow this simple guidance, I can GUARANTEE that you will flawlessly ruin any chances for success with online dating sites and your love life will stay just the way it is!


ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Elena Solomon has been involved in online dating since the early days of WWW. She is the exclusive dating consultant of Soulmades.com.au – Internet personals for singles seeking love, romance, relationships and fun.

Elena is the author of “12 Simple Rules for Success in Love, Life and Online Dating“.

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Aug 03 2009

Fiancée visa, a list of FAQ’s

Published by Irina under Articles, Tips

Every western country has specific rules when you want to bring your non-western fiancée to your country.  Therefore we always advise to check the Government immigration site of your own country for these details. Especially for the reason that they often change.

But many of these rules are corresponding with each other. Therefore we have created a list with most asked questions which apply for almost every western country.


Can we apply for a fiancée visa if one or both of us is divorced?

Absolutely. Be prepared to submit certified copies of all divorce decrees pertaining to the prior marriages of either fiancé.

How long will it take to get my fiancée here?

The time it takes to obtain a fiancée visa, from application through entry, is likely to be several months (4 to 6). The time varies depending on the petitioner’s state of residence and what country the beneficiary is from. Also, criminal background checks, waivers, and errors/omissions during the application process may extend the processing time. Continue Reading »

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Jun 14 2009

Your First Meeting

Published by Irina under Articles, Tips

Your first meeting with your Russian woman is probably the most exciting moment of your relationship.

After a period of correspondence and you both confirm that there is a serious compatibility between each other, it’s time to suggest to meet each other.
But your first meeting needs proper preparation. Its’ not like meeting each other at a Starbucks shop. The only place I suggest to meet her is in her country. The reason is that you can get familiar with her roots and that she will feel more comfortable. But travelling for her (if she is from Russia and you from America, or UK) is almost impossible, due to visa difficulties.

Travelling to Russia or Ukraine is not a big deal for someone who lives in the Western part of the world. You need a passport, a visa, a hotel with visa support and an airline ticket, that’s it. And if you need some useful travel information for travelling within Russia, have a look here.

For information about visa, we have written a special topic about it: visit our Visa information topic.
If you look good then hotels in Moscow are not too expensive. Rates from about $70,- are not difficult to find. Visit this hotel resource which includes visa support (and airline tickets too). Continue Reading »

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Apr 15 2009

Show her YOU are for real

Published by Irina under Articles

By Elena Petrova, author of “How To Find And Marry A Girl Like Me”

As you want to be sure you are talking to a real woman, a woman wants to be confident about you!
She wants to know that you are serious about meeting a life partner from another country.

She does not want an Internet romance or a pen pal; she wants a real relationship, and eventually marriage.
This is the ultimate reason why she ventured into the search for a partner abroad!

Every woman has certain fears connected to the search for a husband abroad. Women’s biggest fear is that she will spend her time, emotions and effort on you, and it will end in vain.

You will understand why, when you learn the sad statistics: only 5% of men writing to Russian women ever go to Russia to meet them!
It means, if she corresponds with 20 men, only ONE of those men is likely to visit her! Continue Reading »

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Jan 05 2009

From Russia, With Love

Published by Irina under Articles

They say that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, the truth of which is realized when we see that each of us has different tastes and preferences. Some of us lust after our own kind, and for others, the grass on the other side is greener – another truth that’s verified by the contradictory clichés of opposites attracting and birds of a feather sticking together. Attraction is akin to applause – you need both hands to coordinate if you want any kind of action to take place. So you need to make sure that the woman you’re attracted to is into you as well. And if you’re looking for a woman from Russia, then here’s what you need to remember: Continue Reading »

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