6 tips for NOT dating
By Irina Sbitneva
Look around the (online dating) web and you will notice that the online
dating scene is a lot focused on single Russian women and other East
European women. The reason that in particular women from these countries
are looking for a foreign partner is generally known, but will not be
discussed in this article. But I do like to give you some tips when you
must NOT dating or contacting Russian women.
Let me give you 6 valuable tips:
If you are a
single man and you don’t want to be single anymore then you probably
already are using the Internet as a source to find a new partner. But fun
dating, chatting and ‘playing around’ with people from your own culture or
country is something different then being determined to find specific a
Russian woman with the one and only purpose: to marry her. This means
traveling to Russia (to meet her), possible language barrier, learning
about the Russian (women) culture, be prepared for unexpected situations,
like money expenses, possible scam situations (if you are looking in the
wrong places) and many more.
If you are not convinced about yourself that this is all worth for you,
then don’t start dating or contacting Russian women. A serious looking
Russian woman who is a formal member of a serious established agency has
already prepared herself before she decides to register herself as a
possible candidate for serious looking single men from all over the world.
She is not looking for pen pals or everlasting month’s of email
correspondence, no she is looking for a life partner with one main
purpose: to build a happy family.
If you think that register yourself at some dubious free
dating site would be enough to present yourself as a
serious looking single man, who is looking for a serious
marriage minded Russian woman with the expectation that
many women will contact you first, then don’t start to
find your future Russian wife in these places, because
you will not find them here. These kind of sites can be
fun of course, but are also hotbeds for possible
Believe me, I have unfortunately a lot of experience
with men who started at the wrong places. Be smart and
take a huge head-start by avoiding these places.
There are people
who register themselves in men’s catalogs with photographs as if they are
looking like ‘Tarzan’s’ or use photo’s only wearing swimming shorts, just
to impress young good looking ladies. And write a biography using 3 lines
like “Hello, my name is [name], I am a single man looking for a young
beautiful woman who also likes music, going out, having fun and drive fast
cars, if you are interested, then please write me back”
If you identify yourself with that kind of persons, then don’t contact or
try to impress Russian women in such way. Russian women are not looking
for Brad Pitt look-alikes or muscles like Sylvester Stallone. They are not
judging ‘looks’ at all, and you will find out why if you take the trouble
to do this the right way.
If you think
Russian women are looking for any (western) man just because you think
they are looking for a new country, a better life, a wealthy man, no
matter if he is 20 years older than she is, then please keep on dreaming.
They just seek compatible partners for long
term-relationships and marriage and want to love and be loved, that’s all
no more, no less!
If you don’t have
a regular job or (enough) income or don’t have a house/apartment (rent or
owned) big enough to live with a family, or if you have any serious
criminal records (I am not talking about non paid parking tickets), then
don’t try to bring a Russian woman into your country. You will not
succeed. Not because of my personal advise which has nothing to do with
this, but because of the strict regulations, procedures and rules that are
imposed by the authorities when you have the intention to immigrate a
Russian woman into your country. Please advise the official USCIS website
website US Embassy, Moscow.
If you think, that
when she finally joins you in your country, you can start living your
‘normal’ life again and if you think she is capable enough to find her own
way in your (for her) strange country, to find at once a job, to teach
herself your language and find by herself new friends and if you think she
should be ‘thankful’ that you have ‘pulled her out’ her poor mafia
controlled and corrupted country, then don’t start even thinking about
contacting a Russian woman. At least the first month’s she will need extra
support from you to settle herself with you as a ‘just married’ husband-and-wife
couple and she has to adjust to your country (customs), your culture, your
language, your friends, your colleague’s, your shops, your train and bus
schedule, your etc. and that takes time and patience from both of you.
But my (western) husband and I can assure you: It’s all worth it!
Please do not think I am some weird arrogant Russian woman and please do
understand that I am certainly not trying to discourage you to ‘date’
Russian women, on the contrary, I only want to give you some serious tips
about the things that really won’t work and if you want to learn more,
please visit my website ‘Are you crazy enough to marry a Russian’
woman and start reading my advise chapters.
About the author:
Irina Sbitneva is the owner of
www.russian-women-info.com - an online
information site for single men looking
for a (Russian) partner.
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